i was babysitting a little boy and girl once and the boy asked me if i had a boyfriend and i said “no!! but i have a girlfriend!” and he said “like a friend thats a girl?” and i said “no like a boyfriend but they’re a girl instead of a boy! we still do couple things but we’re just both girls” and he said, without missing a beat, “oh ok! are you gonna marry her?”
like it’s literally that easy for kids to understand
emotional abuse is when someone does something to hurt you, and when you express your feelings, that you’re upset, they turn it around to be something you did to hurt them and they force you to apologize for it, and your feelings, like always, are rendered invalid and silenced, forever damaging the ability to trust others with your feelings because they always are used against you.
I don’t think any one person I know understands how important J. Cole’s music is to me, honestly. He’s saved me from some pretty dark shit and I was balling my eyes out when my parents said I couldn’t go to his concert this year because they didn’t want me a part of that “crowd”.They didn’t realize they were insulting me along with one of my major idols, I guess.